Summary of Marty Klein's Sexual Intelligence

Book excerpt: Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 People say they want one thing from sex, but they spend the experience focusing on everything except that. They insist on focusing on how their genitalia are working, which is a huge distraction from pursuing pleasure or intimacy. #2 There are many things we want from sex, besides pleasure and closeness. These include reassurance that we’re sexually desirable, reassurance that we’re sexually competent, validation of our masculinity or femininity, and a sense that we’re normal. #3 Sex is mostly about success and failure for many people. They are afraid that they won’t perform as expected by their partner or themselves, and that they might make a fool of themselves. #4 The idea that we can solve our sexual issues by having better sex is flawed. It ignores the fact that many of our problems around sex are rooted in emotional issues that we’re not addressing.